I couldn’t possibly spend another night sharing a hostel room with Amanda, who insisted on sleeping naked between the dirty sheets of the rented bed. Having a travel partner had, in the past, proven to be beneficial and fun, but I was definitely questioning whether this trip would have been better off on my own.
Deciding whether to travel solo or with another person is an essential question to ask—and a decision not to be taken lightly. If you aren’t sure whether your next trip is fit for a one-man show, or if you’d be better off with a buddy, here are nine things to keep in mind before you pack your bags.
1 – The Ultimate Freedom
PRO: Your trip is your trip—it is the ultimate self-indulgence. You don’t have to follow anyone else’s rules. What better way to find yourself than to immerse yourself in new cultures and experiences and make them all your own? Once your initial fear and self-consciousness has passed, realizing how empowering solo travel can be is an exciting reason to go it alone. A trip plagued with uncertainty when you first arrive at your destination can be a huge confidence booster once you’ve completed your journey.
Once your initial fear and self-consciousness has passed, realizing how empowering solo travel can be is an exciting reason to go it alone.
CON: It is common for first-time solo travelers to feel a bit hesitant about globetrotting alone. It can be scary negotiating a taxi ride or eating a meal by yourself, especially when you are used to being around other people. Traveling to a place where you don’t speak the local language can compound that fear. If being alone keeps you from fully exploring your destination, you may be better off with a partner.
2 – Shed Your Shell
PRO: Solo travel opens doors to meeting people you normally wouldn’t have noticed or visiting places that wouldn’t have been on your itinerary because you define your trip. On your own you will quickly come to realize you aren’t the only one-man show, and the opportunities to mix and mingle are wide open. In fact, I would argue that traveling solo allows you to meet more people and spend more time with others (should you choose) than traveling with a partner. When with someone else, it’s more likely to just talk and hang out with that other person and not meet anyone new.
CON: Traveling alone can be especially intimidating if you tend to be shy or rely on others. When there is a language barrier, it may take you a longer to warm up to other people on the road, and when you travel with another person, there is a built-in sense of comfort from day one.
3 – Language Game
PRO: If you travel on your own, you are much more likely to learn a foreign language faster. You have no choice but to speak the language—or at least give it your best shot. Solo travel puts you in a better position to socialize with the local population, and conversely, makes it easier to learn how to say what you want to say.
CON: Traveling to a place with a foreign language always offers up its challenges, but with a travel partner, you can work together to creatively communicate with the locals. It is convenient to have someone else as you work your way through a local language, and you may even be lucky enough to have a travel partner who has a flair for the foreign tongue. If you know some Spanish and she speaks German, touring Europe is a lot easier.
4 – Conquer and Divide
PRO: When traveling with a buddy, you need to be at least willing to listen to her suggestions, even if you have no interest in what she wants to see or do. As a solo traveler, you may have to do a little more legwork to plan your trip, but the decisions you make are your own. While it is nice to have the back-and-forth camaraderie and help of a friend, it can also be maddening. We’ve all had these conversations when traveling with a partner:
“What do you want to eat tonight?”
“I’m not sure. How about you?”
“Not too picky really. What about that street cart around the corner?”
“Eh, not really feeling street food tonight. What about that nice Indian restaurant we saw?”
“I don’t really want Indian tonight. How about we just go to the grocery store and cook in our hostel kitchen?”
“Ugh, I really don’t feel like cooking tonight….”
And on and on and on it goes. If you’re traveling long-term with someone else, you’re sure to have similar conversations a few times a week. When you’re traveling solo, those often infuriating debates don’t exist. You just eat what you feel like eating that night! And do what you feel like doing the next day!
As a solo traveler, you may have to do a little more legwork to plan your trip, but the decisions you make are your own.
CON: With two people, you essentially have to do half the work. Brainstorming sessions open up doors to things you didn’t know about or places you’d never heard of before. Together you can find the best deals, scope out great restaurant reviews, and pick the brains of people you both know separately for suggestions and ideas. One of you can pick up the luggage while the other flags down a ride. You can also get away with packing just one tube of toothpaste between the two of you.
5 – Setting the Schedule
PRO: You are a morning person, but your partner prefers to party through the night. Do you really want to sit around waiting for your friend to wake up, or would you rather get up and go when you are ready? One of the biggest benefits of traveling on your own is that you make all of your decisions, especially when it comes to deciding what you want to do and when. If you want to breeze through a museum or skip it altogether for an afternoon relaxing with a cappuccino people watching … you can!
CON: Together you and your travel partner can bounce ideas off of each other as you plan the perfect day. She may open your eyes to a backdoor experience she heard about from a friend, and you might convince her that you should take the time to hit up some great restaurants you read about. As you build your travel schedule together, you might devise a unique plan that neither one of you could have created on your own.
6 – Cash Question
PRO: As a solo traveler, you can find great deals, especially if you are patient and flexible. It may be easier to fly standby and reap the benefits doled out by the airlines when you are on your own schedule. Bunking in a dorm room at a hostel can save you a chunk of change and introduce you to travelers like yourself. And with a keen sense of observation, you can scope out other single travelers looking to share a cab or split the cost of a multiple-person entry fee.
CON: Traveling with another person allows you to share the cost of many expenses on a trip. You can share hotel rooms, large meals and transportation costs. From sharing a guidebook to talking vendors down at street markets for purchasing more than one of the same item, the two of you can jointly get by on a lot less cash than if you go it solo.
7 – Safety in Numbers
PRO: On your own, you are more likely to be aware of your surroundings and belongings. You may be hyper-sensitive about what is going on around you and consciously make smarter decisions knowing you are alone. With a buddy, it is easy to become comfortable with each other and let your guards down in situations where you should be more aware of your safety.
CON: After dark, at border crossings and in otherwise questionable situations, it is always better to be accompanied by another person. You are less likely to be singled out as a crime victim if someone else is present, especially if you are a woman. On a train or bus, one of you can sleep while the other keeps an eye on your luggage, and when you’re accosted by street hawkers, you can both work to diffuse the situation and move on.
8 – A Piece of Home
PRO: If you’re hoping to escape into oblivion, traveling with another person might remind you too much of home—especially if your partner insists on comparing everything (the food, the climate, the people, the smells) to something familiar. In fact, you may become the person your partner relies on for a piece of home. In our global world, it is simple to take a couple comfort items with you and stay in touch through a variety of ways — in this present period of time and technology, a piece of home isn’t far away if you want it.
CON: For people who have little travel experience, a travel buddy can help ease the transition into a foreign environment. Homesickness is kept at bay and a familiar face and voice can make frustrating or lonely moments more tolerable. And—no questions asked—it is always easier to have a friend with you if you become sick away from home.
9 – Nothing More Than Memories
PRO: One of the biggest benefits of solo travel is that you’ll have a whole host of friends from around the world who share your memories. Hook up on social media and your memories (and future travel destinations) will never be further than a mouse click away.
CON: You’ve awoken to a beautiful sunrise over an isolated beach in the South Pacific. Or you’ve found that perfect meal in a hidden bistro in Italy. Or you’ve had a blast at a nightclub in South Africa. Those experiences are yours, but when you travel with a buddy, you have someone who shares your stories and memories long after you’ve returned home.
Read more about solo travel:
- 7 Reasons Why Everyone Should Travel Solo At Least Once
- 19 Resources for Solo Travelers
- Solo Female Travel Myths Debunked
- How to Get Started With Solo Travel
- 10 Things You Learn from Living Abroad
About the author
JoAnna Haugen writes from Las Vegas, where she can often be found planning her next great adventure. A former Peace Corps volunteer in Kenya, her travels have taken her from the waters of the Nile River, up the Inca Trail and to the rainforests of Australia. One of her life goals is to touch all seven continents. You can find her online at www.joannahaugen.com.